"Believe Nothing: no matter who said it, even if I have said it, except it agree with your own reason and common sense. Siddhartha Guatamo, the Buddha.
Check out the Man Alive Page above. It is NOT a ‘one evening read ‘ but please read it. It answers the questions Sarah asked. It illuminates why everybody ends up having some issues that seemingly come from nowhere. No I didn’t write it, a gentleman by the name of Greg Swan wrote it and asks for it to be widely distributed (see the creative commons license at the beginning) Last I checked, the links embedded still work so you can download a copy for yourself to read at leisure.